-Has intelligence mixed with it. There is wisdom with real compassion, no pity and no waving of your rights
Compassion without intelligence= giving your kids cake before dinner just because they cry
What are 4 kinds of compassion
What is familial compassion
Compassion between family members: caregivers, parents, children,
-Root of all compassion
Compassion for people across the world
Seeing an earthquake in nepal and worrying about people you dont know
Compassion at personal risk
People who hid jews during nazi germany risked being imprisoned themselves
What is loving-kindness meditation
A number of practices that cultivate unconditional positive emotional states of kindness and compassion
What 4 things do NOT describe loving kindness
Selfish attraction and ill will
Pity and cruelty
Exuberance and resentment
Indifference and attachment
-"metta" warmth that reaches out to others
-the intention and capacity to offer kindness to others. its wanting others to be happy. love is a heartfeltvreaction and kindness has a gentle quality
this is a desire for people not to suffer
-The intention and capacity to lighten and relieve suffering
having a clear calm tranquil state of mind. Not clingy and not attached and non discriminating. its not a friend nor a for its everybody
what does judging feel like?
judging yourself feels like you have to live up to an expectation or your not good enough. the opposite would be discernment- noticing that you may not be perfect but thats okay
In what sense is clinging optional?
we have the ability to recognize that our identities are fluid and constantly changing rather than attaching ourselves to ideas or concepts which narrow the scope of ourselves
Do you feel like being yourself can be a relief?
yes because we often critisize ourselves for being too much or too little of something when we compare ourselves. however when we let go of who we "think" we should be we find that we are lighter, more free
What is deep listening?
Term made by Thich Nhat Hanh
-listening without expectation or judgments
-listening with the purpose of helping another empty their heart
Makes us feel good
Better parenting, spouses, and friends
What happens experientially?
Happier: two opposite mental/emotional states cannot co exist
Important in detecting emotions and mapping bodily responses onto an emotion. Detecting or changing heart rate or blood pressure and making that information available to the brain
What is elevation according to Haidt, J (2010)?
Warm, uplifting feeling that people experience when they see unexpected acts of human goodness, kindness, courage, or compassion
How did Haidt, J(2010) begin his study on elevation?
He originally studied disgust which has an evolutionary adaptive function for us. If we walk into a public bathroom that smells like shit we are disgusted and will most likley leave. This is good because we are less likley to be exposed to infectious disease
When Haidt, J(2010) asked his subjects what they thought about disgust what was the response?
Surprisingly no one really said gross thigs. They all mentioned social situations like racism, sexism, bullying etc
When Haidt, J (2010) studied people who were elevatedd, what did he find?
There was a social focus
people wanted to go tell other people about what they saw
they were more likley to want to be around more people
Tears of compassion
-Crying because of the children growing up without parents or neglected in some form
Can we have compassion between the healer and the wounded
no. it is a relationship between equals. if there is no equality then there is no true compassion
Why do we have elation?
Encourages us to be cohesive, social finction, helps the group, encourages altruism, has individualistic effect as well: gives you feelings of energy and playfulness
Real life example: Mother Theresa
Started her work in the slums of Calcutta, India.
Hospice work, Helped the poor, cares for people with aids, leprosy, tb
Real life example: The kielburger brothers
12 years old when he read about child labour
Started school project which evolved into a non prof group called free the children. Helped build schools and stiffen child labour laws
Real life example: Bernie Glassman
Cofounded zen peacemakers
Set up a soup kitchen in nyc and taught inner city youth basic skills like cooking. used that food to feed the homeless. Make the brownies for B&J icecream
What is the giving pledge?
Started by Warren Buffet. Trying to get all the rich people to donate their money to charity. Like him or not, bill gates has almost eradicated polio
The broaden and build theory
Broaden- positive emotions broaden our attention and thinking. we can solve problems with ease, be rational
Build-We build resources as a result of our broadening attention and thinking. So out social relations and copy strategies become better
What is the hedonic treadmill?
in social psych we often have to form positive emotions to do this we usually gove candy to ppt. this works in the short term but we cannot give ppt candy every single day, it wont provoke positive feelings in the same way. so we use loving and kindness meditation which works long term
Describe Fredrickson et al.(2008) study ( long paper )
-7 wk LKM course
-Used a wait list control group
-DV: Resources, Outcomes and Daily assesment of meditation experiences
Results of Fresrickson et al. (2008) study:
Increase in positive emotions with time
No significant influence on nwgative emotions
Increase in personal resources
Subjects were more satisfied with their lives
Miscellaneous findings with LKM
Lower back pain
Reactions to inflammation
Positive emotions and well being
Neural expression of sadness
how does LKM change neural expression of sadness
Once you experience something over and over again it creates a strong connection in your brain so that a small stimulus can elicit the same response of sadness. LKM can change the wiring in your brain to counter neural expression
describe what Condon et al (2013) did to test lkm
he has a subject sit in a room full of confederates and had a woman on crutches walk in. He was testing to see whether LKM would influence the likihood of the subject giving the woman the seat
What were the statistical results of codon et al (2013) study?
60% of the subjects who did lkm gave up their seat while only 16% in the waitlist control did